Law of Attraction is so glamorized on social media...
People that are very successful with the Law of Attraction seem like online celebrities sometimes. We definitely (including myself), put them on pedestals. How can we get there? Why do they get all of it?
If you aren't that familiar with what I am talking about, here's a very simple explanation of the Law of Attraction: if you focus on want you want then you can energetically attract it into your life. Pretty awesome, right? Seems simple on the surface, but in practice it gets deep quickly. It isn't as simple as it looks on social media. This is the reason I wanted to write this post. Let's take a more down-to-earth approach to the Law. Let's look at what it is like to use the Law of Attraction practically.
I have been consciously practicing and using the Law for years. It has brought crazy magical experiences and people into my life. In fact, the month I discovered back when I was 18, I manifested a new relationship and a new car...
Here are three common places that people get stuck when using the Law of Attraction:
1 | Focusing too hard on the future.
Lots of people use the term "placing your order" with the Universe when describing the Law of Attraction. It is true that you can call in, manifest, or attract things, but focusing too hard on WHAT you want or HOW you will get them is a very easy place to get stuck. Detachment is essential to the attraction process. Yeah, dumb right? How are you supposed to want something and not want it at the same time? This is a skill. Don't beat yourself up or expect yourself to be an expert right away. Capitalist societies condition us to constantly want from when we are children...new toys, more food, more television, etc. We are conditioned to not be content. This mentality definitely seeps into other ares of our lives as we grow older...better relationships, more raises, and bigger houses. Energetically, learning detachment means moving from a vertical way of living to a horizontal one. Our perceptions move from viewing life as events that build off of each other, to viewing life as a shared experience with those around us. Detachment means living ONLY in the present. No worrying about controlling your future. No dwelling on mistakes and crap from the past. Placing your order and trusting the server will bring it to you.
2 | Not developing a consistent practice.
Typically, the process people learn when first starting out with the Law of Attraction is to list what they want and then visualize themselves living a life where they have it. Daily visualization is great but it is only one part of the puzzle here. Meditation and a self-love routine are just as important in the attraction process. And as much as I don't like routine, I really cannot knock the value that being consistent gives me. Consistent routines and rituals are literally the basis of ALL change. So visualizing a few times a week and then going back to unconsciously moving through your day is not effective for attracting. Living with intention instead of leaning back on auto-pilot is WAY more effective. The best way to start this process is to wake up 30 minutes earlier every morning. I know. I am a monster, but listen. It is AMAZING how much more you feel in control of your life when you intentionally make a few extra moments for yourself in the morning. Otherwise why are you getting up? Just for your kids? Your job? Without that intentional time, you are subconsciously telling yourself the external world controls you.
3 | Not allowing room for healing.
Law of Attraction works because we open ourselves to vulnerability and the possibility of more. If you have unhealed trauma or poor self worth, then you most likely blocking yourself and you don't even know it. All of us want lots of money and free time, but what if you had all of those things? Can you honestly accept those types of blessings in your life? I know I wasn't for a long time. The thought of me suddenly having tons of clients and trips around the world freaked me out a bit... How could I handle it all? Did I really want that? I didn't completely believe in my core that I was worthy of that type of life. I needed to work hard for it. I needed to struggle for it because "that is the way it is." When we open ourselves up to possibilities without healing our emotional wounds, we cannot receive the greatness we are craving. Practicing forgiveness, meditation, journaling, healthier diets, inner child work, reiki, and more ways to heal yourself will catapult your ability to attract.