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Top 3 Biggest Law of Attraction Mistakes People Make

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Law of Attraction is so glamorized on social media...

People that are very successful with the Law of Attraction seem like online celebrities sometimes. We definitely (including myself), put them on pedestals. How can we get there? Why do they get all of it?

If you aren't that familiar with what I am talking about, here's a very simple explanation of the Law of Attraction: if you focus on want you want then you can energetically attract it into your life. Pretty awesome, right? Seems simple on the surface, but in practice it gets deep quickly. It isn't as simple as it looks on social media. This is the reason I wanted to write this post. Let's take a more down-to-earth approach to the Law. Let's look at what it is like to use the Law of Attraction practically.

I have been consciously practicing and using the Law for years. It has brought crazy magical experiences and people into my life. In fact, the month I discovered back when I was 18, I manifested a new relationship and a new car...

Here are three common places that people get stuck when using the Law of Attraction:

 

1 | Focusing too hard on the future.

Lots of people use the term "placing your order" with the Universe when describing the Law of Attraction. It is true that you can call in, manifest, or attract things, but focusing too hard on WHAT you want or HOW you will get them is a very easy place to get stuck. Detachment is essential to the attraction process. Yeah, dumb right? How are you supposed to want something and not want it at the same time? This is a skill. Don't beat yourself up or expect yourself to be an expert right away. Capitalist societies condition us to constantly want from when we are children...new toys, more food, more television, etc. We are conditioned to not be content. This mentality definitely seeps into other ares of our lives as we grow older...better relationships, more raises, and bigger houses. Energetically, learning detachment means moving from a vertical way of living to a horizontal one. Our perceptions move from viewing life as events that build off of each other, to viewing life as a shared experience with those around us. Detachment means living ONLY in the present. No worrying about controlling your future. No dwelling on mistakes and crap from the past. Placing your order and trusting the server will bring it to you.

 
 

2 | Not developing a consistent practice.

Typically, the process people learn when first starting out with the Law of Attraction is to list what they want and then visualize themselves living a life where they have it. Daily visualization is great but it is only one part of the puzzle here. Meditation and a self-love routine are just as important in the attraction process. And as much as I don't like routine, I really cannot knock the value that being consistent gives me. Consistent routines and rituals are literally the basis of ALL change. So visualizing a few times a week and then going back to unconsciously moving through your day is not effective for attracting. Living with intention instead of leaning back on auto-pilot is WAY more effective. The best way to start this process is to wake up 30 minutes earlier every morning. I know. I am a monster, but listen. It is AMAZING how much more you feel in control of your life when you intentionally make a few extra moments for yourself in the morning. Otherwise why are you getting up? Just for your kids? Your job? Without that intentional time, you are subconsciously telling yourself the external world controls you.

3 | Not allowing room for healing.

Law of Attraction works because we open ourselves to vulnerability and the possibility of more. If you have unhealed trauma or poor self worth, then you most likely blocking yourself and you don't even know it. All of us want lots of money and free time, but what if you had all of those things? Can you honestly accept those types of blessings in your life? I know I wasn't for a long time. The thought of me suddenly having tons of clients and trips around the world freaked me out a bit... How could I handle it all? Did I really want that? I didn't completely believe in my core that I was worthy of that type of life. I needed to work hard for it. I needed to struggle for it because "that is the way it is."  When we open ourselves up to possibilities without healing our emotional wounds, we cannot receive the greatness we are craving. Practicing forgiveness, meditation, journaling, healthier diets, inner child work, reiki, and more ways to heal yourself will catapult your ability to attract.

 

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Yes, You Can Want Money and Not Be Ego-Driven

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Spiritual people (including myself) really have a tight grip on how money should be used.

Somehow, we have all gotten it in our heads that money is a bad thing and you had to do bad things to get it. And given some of the evidence of the wealthy people we have here in America at least, it is not that big of a leap even if it is dramatic. Like Jane Sincero says in You Are a Money Making Badass, we treat money like a sexual taboo. “Both money and sex can provide unthinkable pleasures, birth new life, and inspire violence and divorce. We’re ashamed if we don’t have it, we’re even more ashamed to admit we want it, we will do things/people we’re not nuts about in order to get it."

Well, I am here to talk about it. We are all for sex education. I am here to drop some wealth education on ya. I am here to talk about it specifically with spiritual and conscious entrepreneurs.

Spirituality, conciseness, and wealth are not mutually exclusive things. Let's break it down:

 

1 | Money has power because we believe in it.

If this isn't a testament to faith and belief, I don't know what is. The economy literally works because we all decided to believe in it. Isn't that crazy?? We all agreed to see numbers on a screen as currency. We all agreed that they represent pieces of paper that we also agreed have value. And that is what money is: it is the shadow of value. It is the physical representation of what we deem valuable to us. That's it. It is all made up! To me, it almost doesn't seem real. It is all made up and we let it dictate so much of how we live our lives.

2 | Wealth is relative.

Value is relative and so is wealth. While one person may view wealth as traveling the world or owning a penthouse, another may view it as simply paying off a house for their family. We all have different value systems and wealth looks different to all of us. What you choose to spend your money on may not be the same as what your friends would spend theirs on because we all have different things that we perceive as valuable. Here's an example: I would never go to Starbucks every day for coffee. But, I know that there are people that go almost every day because it is more valuable to them to get their coffee made to-go. See? They will allocate money for that because it brings them some kind of value. I will allocate money for other things because that is not valuable to me.

3 | Wealth does not equal bad.

If you have wealth, it doesn't mean you are corrupt. If you have wealth, it doesn't mean you are a bad person. If you have wealth, it doesn't mean you took advantage of people to get it.  Example, would you say that your local family-owned breakfast joint that does extremely well every weekend is corrupt? No. You wouldn't. I am challenging you here: Look for more evidence of wealth than just corrupt politicians and multi-million dollar oil executives. Look for evidence of those out there using their wealth for building communities, creating non-profits, or starting spiritual centers. There is so much more out there, and we are focusing on what we don't like.

4 | Take wealth off the pedestal.

So here's your one and only action item for this post. If you want to attain or start generating more wealth, start by mentally taking money off the lofty pedestal. It is not the end-all-be-all of the world. It won't solve all of your problems. It is not just for other people. It is for you too. If you are pushing it up and away from you, then you are also putting yourself down and below it. You are mentally putting yourself in a place where you can't even act. And if you are focusing too hard on obligations, you are probably definitely feeling stuck. The more you practice understanding it is for you and it can be for you NOW, the more you will find yourself getting ideas and wanting to act on it. Because you haven't pushed it into the unattainable area, you will start to feel more and more comfortable taking action and welcoming it into your life.

 

The faster that we believe that we, the spiritually conscious entrepreneurs, deserve wealth too, the faster money can shift so we can create better lives for ourselves and those around us.

It is time to let go of the belief that poverty and struggle are a cloak all spiritual people should wear. You aren't bad for wanting money. Money is just the thing that communicates value. You know what you value for your life. You want money because you know you could bless your life and bless those around you. You know how you would use the wealth to create a better world and community around you.

It's time to change the game.

 

Staying Aligned When You Have Obligations

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Yeah, alignment is great to talk about and all, but how am I supposed to stay in alignment when I have bills, a baby, and a job I hate??

Let's get real here.

Not all of us have luxury of taking a few days off or escaping to a beach to work on our spiritual alignment. We have screaming kids. We have bills due. We have to keep the lights on and the fridge stocked. Frankly, we got maybe 30 minutes a day. How am I supposed to stay in energetic alignment when all of these obligations are just in the way? 

First, ditch the word obligation. Take it out of your vocabulary. Don't even use it anymore. It's trash. Take it out to the street and leave it there. Wave good-bye to it as it is carried to the dump where it belongs. 👋

 
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When we are using the word obligation, it really is communicating a much deeper meaning than just describing something we "have" to do. When we find ourselves using the word obligation what we are really energetically saying is, "We deserve better than this. We are better than this. Our time is being wasted here. We have better things we could be doing." And while all of that may be true, it is sending a really, REALLY mixed message out there to the Universe.

When we use the word obligation what we are saying is that we feel powerless in a situation. We are saying we don't have control. We are saying that the world around us is controlling our decisions, feelings, and actions. When in reality, we ALWAYS have the control. We always have the power to change our perception, choices, thoughts, and emotions at any moment.

By describing our family events, jobs, or finances as obligations, we are giving up our power in whole sections of our lives at once and giving into the fear that we cannot control them. We are letting our ego take the wheel and it drives us straight into self-preservation mode where we forget how powerful we actually are. "I can't believe my boss is treating me this way. I wish I could leave! I wish I could get paid for something I love! I wish I had more free time! I wish I had money left over! I wish I didn't have this mortgage! But I have to do this!" This pattern can literally keep us locked in jobs and lifestyles we hate for DECADES.

By calling parts of our life obligations, we are affirming them. We are allowing them to continue regardless of how much we don't want them. We are sending the message out there into the Universe that we don't have power and we want more situations that make us feel that way. YIKES. 

So let's start to building awareness and shift past the feeling of powerlessness. Because the truth is you DO have all of the power and you ALWAYS will. You can always take action, change your perspective, feel another emotion, or make another choice at any moment. Our current circumstances are the result of past actions. All we have now are our actions of today, so our power is in the choices we make NOW.

 

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